Better Love Assessment
How do you know you are loving you wife or partner well??
Give each statement a number according to how true it may be.
1 Never
2 Rarely
3 Sometimes
4 Often
____ 1. When you are not together, you often think about her, fondly, in a positive way.
____ 2. You are more patient, less irritable and distracted.
____ 3. Your communication is not mostly about managing family, home, and work, and you talk like you are interested in each other – because you are.
____ 4. Amazingly, you are starting to think before you speak, respecting her as you would another person.
____ 5. She shares more openly about herself, not worried about being critiqued, judged or fixed.
____ 6. You are less threatened and have more courage to work through differences and conflicts.
____ 7. Little things are less likely to become big things.
____ 8. You find ways to spend time together.
____ 9. Passion, affection, and intimacy have increased.
____ 10. She often thanks you for being a friend, for being kind, supportive and thoughtful.
Scoring: Add the numbers for a score. ____
34-40 Enjoy!
28-33 Adjust.
-27 Focus.
Cautions:
This is not a test, but an invitation to learn how to love your wife well.
Do not waste time criticizing yourself – it’s not about you, it’s about how she experiences you.
What statements stand out to you because of their high score or low score?
Identify 2-3 ways you would like to love your wife better.
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