How good are you at saying, “I’m sorry,” when an apology is needed?

How do your spouse and you make sure that you are having fun together?

Ask each other this tonight:

Do you feel truly seen, heard, and understood by me?

Create space for honesty, not defensiveness. No fixing, no interrupting. Just listen to learn.

Sometimes the answer won’t feel easy to hear… but that’s where real understanding begins.

When do you feel most understood?

What small acts of kindness mean a lot when your spouse does them?

How do you respond when your spouse lets you know that you have done something wrong?

Dr. Sue Johnson says the real enemy in conflict is not your spouse. It is the pattern you fall into together. Find the Bad Guy. The Protest Polka. Freeze and Flee. When we focus on being right instead of breaking the pattern, connection suffers. What pattern do you fall into and how can you change it? 💬💙

Who’s to blame when you are in a major fight with your spouse?

How do you manage the upset that many of us feel regarding politics and world events?

Are you ever concerned about the attitudes and behavior of your spouse?

How do you effectively address that concern?

How do you keep track of what occupies your mind the most?

How do you manage to occupy your mind with the things that matter the most in your life, including your marriage?

How active and positive are you about your personal health and growth?

Do you know the difference between a reaction and a response?

What are you doing to replace your reactions with responses?

Prayer Guide for your week!

How strong and resilient is your marriage?

What storms have you weathered well?

What positive factors today prepare you for potential storms?

What would you say is the ratio between the business part of your relationship and the pleasure part?

2025 Highlights: Spend a few minutes by yourself listing what was special about the past year, for you personally, as well as for your relationship.

2026 Hopes: Likewise, now make a list of hopes you might have for the year ahead.

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Who is right?

What has been one of your favorite Christmas’ as an adult and what made it special?

How might you make this Christmas special?

How well are you managing your Grumpiness Level?

Are you already stressed, disappointed or irritable about things happening this Christmas?

How will you support each other?