Dr. Sue Johnson says the real enemy in conflict is not your spouse. It is the pattern you fall into together. Find the Bad Guy. The Protest Polka. Freeze and Flee. When we focus on being right instead of breaking the pattern, connection suffers. What pattern do you fall into and how can you change it? 💬💙

Who’s to blame when you are in a major fight with your spouse?

How do you manage the upset that many of us feel regarding politics and world events?

Are you ever concerned about the attitudes and behavior of your spouse?

How do you effectively address that concern?

How do you keep track of what occupies your mind the most?

How do you manage to occupy your mind with the things that matter the most in your life, including your marriage?

How active and positive are you about your personal health and growth?

Do you know the difference between a reaction and a response?

What are you doing to replace your reactions with responses?

Prayer Guide for your week!

How strong and resilient is your marriage?

What storms have you weathered well?

What positive factors today prepare you for potential storms?

What would you say is the ratio between the business part of your relationship and the pleasure part?

2025 Highlights: Spend a few minutes by yourself listing what was special about the past year, for you personally, as well as for your relationship.

2026 Hopes: Likewise, now make a list of hopes you might have for the year ahead.

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Who is right?

What has been one of your favorite Christmas’ as an adult and what made it special?

How might you make this Christmas special?

How well are you managing your Grumpiness Level?

Are you already stressed, disappointed or irritable about things happening this Christmas?

How will you support each other?

This week, let's focus on how we can support our partner's dreams. Read this week's newsletter for more inspiration.

How do you handle disappointment?

Name and describe a recent disappointment. Is it still festering?

Recall your last fight. How did it end? Did it end well?

What do you and your partner love doing just for fun—no purpose, no pressure, just joy?

How do you make time as a person and as a couple to see and enjoy the beauty of nature?