The Best Thing for Your Marriage

How active and positive are you about your personal health and growth?

Our Experience

I have always thought that the best thing for my marriage was obvious: Make Libby happy.

(You can tell that she is not looking over my shoulder right this second. If she were I would have to insert an outburst of shocked laughter. I didn’t say I always do those things.)

I don’t know when, but I began to realize that the best thing I could do for our marriage is to live well myself.

That is, assume radical responsibility for my health – spiritually, physically, emotionally and relationally.

If I neglect any of those areas I’m going to be a problem to those around me. What is worse, if I expect Libby or others to be responsible for those areas, I’m going to drag them down with me.

Some things may be out of my control, like being unable to drive because of a vision impairment. I wish Libby did not have to drive me places. But, if I have a vision of being a growing, healthy person and the habits that support that growth it will be of great benefit to Libby.

My capacity to love and support her grows because I care more.

Becoming more self-aware of my flaws and blind spots keeps me from planting land-mines in our relationship.

To be honest, I rely on God to be transforming me into someone who can love Libby well.

She always has the assurance that if she has a problem with me, then God has a problem with me and he will fix it.

How are you growing?

How are you tending to yourself?