Awesome at home?

Are you as awesome at home as you are at work or in public? Of course not.
Would you like to be? Do you know why you are not?
Do you know how to become awesome at home?

Our Experience

“You would never speak like this to anyone else,” Libby said during a dust-up.

At that moment I had a choice.

Choice 1: Defend myself with one of these:

- “No one else makes me this crazy!”

- “No one else needs me to speak like this!”

- “But you (fill in the blank).”

Choice 2: Pause, take responsibility and listen.

- It sounds like an attack but it may be a bid (Gottman) for me to look at myself.

- At this moment she does not feel emotionally safe.

- Neither do I, but if I listen instead of react she will feel safe and so will I.

- What is really bothering me?

- What is behind my reaction?

- What do I need to learn about myself?

Such is the real-life example that suggested this prompt. Although, this is a useless prompt if you have no intention of being “awesome,” or kind, or compassionate in public or at home. If who you are in public is a false self, the prompt also fails. But if someone calls you in the middle of a dust-up, are you not immediately pleasant?

The person to whom you have pledged your life and love deserves the best of you.

One description of the Best of You is found in the Bible in Colossians 3:12: Clothe yourselves in compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

That is a choice.

Even if I am not being treated with love and respect?

Especially then!

When the dust settles you can take time to figure out the factors that are preventing you from being your best self.

What thoughts, questions, feelings, resistance or aspirations are you aware of right now?