Fun Together

What have the two of you done together recently that was fun?

What is something fun you could do in the next thirty days?

(All couples have times of great stress when there is no capacity for fun, and mutual support is the best expression of their love. But in ‘normal’ times the Fun Gauge on our dashboard should be noticed.)

Our Experience

“So, Libby what have we done fun together recently?”, I ask.

“We went to the lake with friends last week,” she answers.

“I’m not sure that counts,” I respond.

“All we did was accept an invitation. We had great fun, but we were not together all that much.”

“The same thing goes for the baseball game we went to last week,” I add.

“It’s a good thing we have some fun friends,” I say.

“Well, I like talking to you,” she says a little defensively. (She is being kind. She tolerates my incessant conversation about whatever deep-dive I have taken into a new subject. Like why I think that multiple movies should be made about the life of Roger Williams, the founder of Rhode Island. Did you know that immediately upon arriving to Plymouth he began learning the languages of Native-Americans and later convinced a gathering of one thousand warriors not to go to war against the English?)

“We’re such extroverts that we always want to be around other people,” she says.

We do have fun with pretty much everyone we know.

But we have never been very intentional or purposeful about having fun together. I guess watching Jeopardy together counts for something?

In the best-seller, Getting the Love You Want, the authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt suggest making a Fun List. Each person comes up with their own list of ideas and then they compare and choose a few to try.

Perhaps that would be worth a try for Libby and me.

Who knows, maybe we will become the dancers I have always wanted us to be. Or maybe I’ll make a clay pot.

What have you done for fun?

What could you do for fun in the next thirty days?